yes, yes, I haven’t posted in a week… This Lent/ no computer thing is killin’ me! My goal is to get a bunch of posts done on Sunday! So we’ll see!!
It’s time for another post in the Real Life series hosted by Be Merry, Kate and myself.
I don’t know about the rest of you parents out there, but most of the time I feel like my “parenting approach” is more a “fake it til you make” type thing. I pray every night that I’m not damaging Damian beyond the abilities of any moderately priced therapist. I mean really, what’s one more therapist on his list? Right!? (I’m joking for all of you who are shaking your heads)
I’ve read a decent number of parenting books and articles. For the most part they just frustrate me because they aren’t a fit for a) my personality or b) Damian’s personality. I couldn’t swallow a lot of the attachment parenting mentality but I found a lot of traditional, hardline discipline approaches a little too extreme for me. And then there’s all the other stuff in between. It reminds me of when I was first trying to breastfeed Damian and I read a bunch of different books that all told me something different. By the end of it I was ready to just give up. And while Damian’s medical needs caused me to “give up” breastfeeding, I can’t really do that with parenting.
At the end of the day, we finally just decided consistency (with some sort of plan) is the best approach. Only Nate and I really know our child. We know what he responds to and what he doesn’t. And we know that he knows us pretty darn well too. No style of parenting is going to perfectly fit us. And while I still wish Damian came with an owner’s manual, I think we’re trying our best to figure it out as we go without causing too much damage to his psyche.
Wish us luck though because from what I’ve heard… this making it up as you go stuff continues even when they are adults (thanks mom!!)
So what’s going on in your life? Got something you want to share?? Link up below!!